The Dead Baby (A Mother's Greatest Nightmare)

The saying "better safe than sorry" is a valid 

one that every one should keep to heart at all

times, in this age of kidnappers abducting

people for ritual purposes, in these times when

armed robbers attack with more sophisticated

weapons like never before, in these age when

public office holders are more interested in

looting public funds than providing social

amenities, it is imperative for everyone to keep

their eyes opened and be more careful than

ever before, having said that, let me tell you

this story the very way it happened, for me,

sharing this story is an indeed very painful

experience because the incidence tore my

heart apart when it did happen and it very

nearly tore my home apart.

I married my beautiful wife about four years

ago, marrying her was a dream come through

for me, for i indeed love her with all of my

heart and after been in a relationship with her

for about four years, it was just quite natural

that she was the one i married, a year after

our wedding my wife had a wonderfully

healthy baby girl, beautiful just like her

mother, been our first child my mother in law

was available to help with caring for the

little bundle of joy, it was wonderful seeing my

beautiful daughter grow, the sleepless nights

of keeping her from crying when she could not

sleep, the falling and crying of the little girl

when she started learning how to walk,

becoming a father, a dad and a husband

became the more real to everyday.

A few months after my daughter clocked two

years, my wife gave birth to our second child

and he was a boy, what joy filled my heart,

carrying my first born son in the delivery room

that day was an unforgettable experience for

me, little did i realize that i was soon going to

have to carry the child lifeless in my arms.

My wife having gained experience from caring

for our first child didn't need so much support

from my mother in law, the fact that grandma

hadn't been in the best of health left the

caring for the new born solely to her and the

fact that she was a full time housewife kept

the load less on her, perhaps i didn't realize

how much pressure she going through,

because everything came to a head on black

Thursday, after bathing the child, she

proceeded to give the child daily medications,

out of the many bottles and containers in the

baby cart my wife took the medications from,

she mistakenly and unknowingly gave the

baby a teaspoonful of methylated spirit and

she didn't realize this until about 30 minutes

after when she saw the child wasn't breathing

well, rushing the child to the hospital was

another matter because the hospital didn't

have the equipment necessary to provide

emergency treatment for ingestion of

poisonous substance, an hour after the child

was taken to the hospital, the child died.

I received the call to immediately report at the

hospital that my child had been involved in an

emergency, i got to the hospital only to be

presented with the lifeless body of my child,

my first born son, killed by the utter

carelessness of his mother, my wife was

devastated and crying her eyes out, she was

torn between crying for the loss of our child

and begging me to forgive her that it was a

mistake, i couldn't look at her and i was

entirely speechless not knowing what to say to

her.

Loosing a child is one thing, loosing your first

born son is another thing and much more

devastating is when that child is mistakenly

killed by ones wife, i was under immense

pressure to send my wife packing and divorce

her, for three months after the incidence she

had to go stay at her parents place, as it was

impossible for her to get consolation from me,

since i needed consolation myself. The whole

incidence for me was

the greatest test my marriage could have gone

through, it might have been easier for me to

forgive my wife of adultery than this, but in

the long run, i allowed the love of God to have

its way in my heart, 6 months after the

incidence i forgave my wife and took her back

in our matrimonial home, it wasn't easy but

the forgiveness was worth it, because after my

wife returned she became pregnant and now

we are expecting a set of twins.